Sex Tips – Knowledge is Sexual Power

The sex tips and advice in this article are aimed at men.

Did you know that many men are not enjoying the sort of sex life they are capable of achieving? This is because most men simply don’t consider the possibility that their sexual performance can be improved easily and that it’s actually very simple to learn and master a new sex technique.

I congratulate you for simply being here and reading this. You have now spent more time learning about sexual improvement than most other men ever do. Sexual mastery isn’t about taking a magic pill or enhancing the size of your penis with the latest miracle gadget.

Sexual mastery is simply about learning accurate information and then applying that knowledge successfully.

According to the Orgasmic Dysfunction Medline currently 33 to 50 per cent of all women experience female orgasms infrequently and are dissatisfied with how often they reach orgasm with their current partner. That’s up to 50 per cent of all women! And in my experience as a sex coach this statistic has proved to be true. Not just the g spot orgasm either but any type of female orgasm.

The reason we have so many unsatisfied women is because most people, men and women, simply don’t spend the time learning sexual skills, techniques and are generally atomically unaware.

People are ignorant of the possibilities of what can be achieved sexually. Plus the average man is quite poor at maintaining an erect penis and controlling his ejaculation compared to what he could achieve if he knew some simple techniques.

I now from personal experience as a sex coach that 99 per cent of guys can learn to really sexually satisfy women and perform brilliantly once they have learnt and applied the correct information. We’ve helped thousands of men on everything from anal sex advice to oral sex advice, from sexual confidence to controlling orgasms and seen huge improvement. All you need is an open mind to learn new ways to make your sex life more enjoyable and more fulfilling.

Just because you’re interested in learning more about mastering your sex life doesn’t necessarily imply that you’re not already a skilled lover.

As is true in most walks of life, the successful never stop learning and developing their skills. What it does say about you is that you’re open to learning new ideas about how to make your sex life more enjoyable and more fulfilling. You’re willing to see what new possibilities could be explored to improve on what already know.

Are you an average guy in bed?

The average guy has never read or learnt about sex techniques and positions. The average guy tends to have learnt about safer sex, STIs/STDs, pregnancy and so on. He’s also learnt about the functional aspects of love making but not the about the interesting parts on increasing the pleasure in sex and mastering performance. For instance, the average man performing oral sex will not have read an oral sex guide to help them master their oral sex technique. They just go with what they think may be good. Sometimes through experimentation the average guy can get good. But why not study and learn more about sex? Why stay in the dark? Knowledge gives you the power fully fulfill your partner in ways you may never have thought of.

Just think about all the men out there who spend countless hours and huge amounts of money learning to improve other areas of their life like hobbies, sports, business and so on. These same men then hesitate to learn and master one of the most fundamental skills – Sex.

This means the average man will know more about their favourite hobby than they do about pleasing their partner. They will have read more guides, tips and techniques about their hobby than learning about giving good oral sex, about sexual fetishes, love sex advice or whatever.

Why don’t men consider improving their sexual performance?

Maybe they don’t know where to look or how to practice. Maybe they have looked around and stumbled into all the inaccurate information out there. Or maybe they think their sexual skills and performance capabilities are something they are born with and can’t be improved. Well they are wrong! Dead wrong! New skills can be learnt and they can also be taught.

I improved my own sexual skills beyond what I thought was possible and learnt what works on all women. I became a male escort and then a sex coach.

Consider the possibility that sexual performance is something that can be easily improved and mastered. Consider also the possibility that there are real sex masters out there who can teach you to master your own sexual performance.

If, as a man, you’ve not been able to make every woman you’ve slept with have strong multiple orgasms consistently and with little effort then there are techniques out there you need to know.

I’ll re-emphasis that “with little effort”. It doesn’t require a lot of effort to give women multiple orgasms.

Becoming a “Sexpert” is not a magical or mystical process. It is something you can achieve. All you need is the right information, an open mind, a willingness to learn and the right motivation.

Rest assured you can learn all of the skills, exercises and techniques you need to know. The motivation is up to you.

Help and advice is available out there on a massive range of sexual topics. Everything from anal sex advice to sexual psychology, from oral sex techniques to questions about penis length and the male orgasm. You just have to find if.

For real life practical sex tips and sex secrets for men that really work, check out: MasterYourSexLife.com

Nathan Xavier is a retired male escort who now leads an international team of sex experts at MasterYourSexLife. Find out what other men don’t know. Based on Nathan’s 10 years working as a male gigolo to women.

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Sex In America: How Can We Get More People To Talk About Sex?

Lets talk about how people can openly talk about sex without thinking that sex is taboo. Sex is part of every day normal life for people. Talking about problems that affects our sex lives will help deal with problems that develop with couples. Talking about our sex lives will help settle some of the myths each of us has about sex. Sex is for enjoyment between two people that are involved with each other or married which ever you prefer. Talking with your partner or mate about what you like most will break the ice between the two of you. Take the time to find out what each of you enjoy doing the most and life will take it from there. Being honest in any sexual relationship will let each of you know exactly what your partner enjoys you doing most.I believe that love plays the most important part of two peoples sex life.

Sharing your thoughts openly about what turns you on the most will keep your sex life active and satisfying. Learn as much as you can about your partners sexual likes this will keep you both open to each others ideas about sex. I believe that foreplay is most important in keeping your sex life healthy and active. Take the time to learn about each others body this way both of you will know what makes the other happy.I think each partner should choose a place where they would most like to have sex then you are always making your surroundings different. Working together will only improve your joy and pleasure you will achieve with each other. Extended foreplay will keep your sex act last longer then usual this should make you both more satisfied. This will also keep your sex life more healthy and satisfying.

Sharing your sexual fantasies with each other will open your sex life to more possibilities to achieve orgasm. Sexual fantasy is a way to keep your sex life growing and full for both of you.Talking to your mate about what you think about sexually will show your mate the trust you have in keeping this a long term relationship. Taking turns acting out each others sexual fantasies will keep your sex life from becoming boring.I believe that openly talking about what each person enjoys most sexually will keep your sex life more satisfying for each of you.

Experimenting with different sexual positions will let you know what is more arousing for each of you during your love making. Sharing different sexual positions make sure that you both find positions that are most comfortable and arousing for both partners. Always work with your mate to keep your sex life growing and changing this will keep your sex life active and fulfilling. Talking to each other will keep your love life honest.

Trying out different types of food and oils will raise your sexual level even more. I find that fruits are usually the best to use they taste good and the cold will keep you sexually going. sexually stimulating each other with foods will prolong your orgasm. Using sexually arousing oil will make every part of your body sensitive to the touch. Using all parts of each others body will massage will extend the sexual moment for both of you. Taking time to revel in each others bodies will help to prolong your love making. Using ice will not only stimulate you sexually it will bring every nerve in your body alive.

Take your time with your partner sexually will slowly build up your climax. Making your lover happy sexually takes time to get to know just what works for both partners. Teaching each other about what arouses your body will let your partner learn exactly what excites you sexually. Sharing time just talking about what turns you on sexually will not only arouse you both but you will share an honest relationship sexually.

Making sure that the mood is set for your partner sexually will show your tenderness. Have dinner by candle light just to get started . Dance to very slow sexual music will help create the right mood with your partner. Kissing is the most important part of making the mood right for both of you. Make sure that you start with short wet kisses to get you both in the mood. using different tastes will also help while you are kissing the taste will stimulate both of you. Wine fruits are usually the best to leave that different taste in your partners mouth. Using your taste buds can also stimulate you both sexually.Go from short wet kisses to long stimulating kisses just share each others smell and taste can make you ready.Talking to each other about what you like sexually about how your mate looks will help make you both as easy with each other.

Sharing orgasm is what all couples want to have with each other. You must both work at this first to get sex out in the open to talk on what stimulates you both. Orgasm will come if you both help each other to understand what turns you on the most. Kissing and exploring each others bodies will get you going in the right direction. Playing sexual games can also stimulate you both sexually. Prolonging your love making in different ways will make your orgasm stronger. Love making is a commitment by two people that really know each other both personally and sexually. Covering every different form of sexual stimulation will prolong your love making. Always make each time you make love different from the first. Use all your different senses to sexually arouse you both. Sometimes just that certain way you look at your mate will set the mood for you both.

Keeping your sex life active is talking and working to better get to know as much as you can about stimulating your partner in many different ways. Mostly enjoying each other sexually with every sense in your body will intensify your orgasms together.

I believe the more people openly talk to their sexual partner the better sex will be. Always practice safe sex no matter who you are with. Let your imaginations go wild sexually to please your mate. Keeping your sex life different will keep you happy both sexually and physically. What we do in our own private lives sexually is limitless as long as lovers all talk and commit to each other. As always I write with respect for all people

My name is Mike Carvell of the voice i hope that this will be read by all publishers and that they agree with me that we need a voice for change I believe that if we all work together we can change so many problems that face our country today.I believe that if you put your column and respect on the line that we can all make this column a voice for all people I mean all people. Tell me what you want changed and i will keep this column honest direct and to the point with the commitment you need to affect change. Once again I need your respect help and commitment to make this accomplishment possible.I not only believe in all Americans but the rights and respect of you all to make this commitment for which I will write with all honesty and respect and power that i can to prove this to you. This is my column and only my column I will do all the writing with respect to all those of you who put your trust and commitment into this column now and in the future. I will be columns as many as i can on as many subjects that I can with respect for all my future work thank you.

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Why Do Men Go to Sleep After Having Sex

One of the most common sexual problems between men and women is that men tend to go to sleep very soon after sex, a time when most women want to cuddle and/or talk. Of course, this is not true in all relationships, but it is true in more relationships than not. In addition to being a frequent complaint, it is also a serious one that can affect not only the sexual relationship but also the relationship as a whole.

It is unfortunate that few men realise the seriousness of this issue, or take steps to address it. For many, going to sleep after sex is completely natural. They do not realise that as they lay snoring away, their partners are laying awake with their emotional needs unfulfilled, often disappointed and angry that their needs and desires for post-sex intimacy have been ignored. These negative emotions are due not only to their needs not being met, but perhaps even more importantly the resulting perception that their male partner is both unaware of and indifferent to their needs. Even in the cases where women have expressed their post-sex intimacy needs, the male partner seldom responds, continuing to fall asleep immediately after sex.

In a long-term relationship, such repeated post-sexual disappointment can easily damage the sexual relationship as well as the relationship more generally. It is an irony that many men seeking to improve their sex lives focus on the physical side (in particular, penis size) and will often spend considerable emotional energy and money on trying to enhance these attributes, when all they need to do to please their partners more is to stay awake a few minutes.

The first step in solving this problem is to understand it. The explanations for why men fall asleep after sex fall into four categories, the first of which is personality related and the remaining three are physical:

  • Indifference. This is the explanation most frequently given by women when asked why men fall asleep after sex. They propose that the man’s needs (sexual release) have been met and they are then no longer interested in the woman’s needs.
  • Oxygen deprivation. Sexual studies have noted that men often hold their breath during sex, especially during climax. A number of articles have concluded that this results in partial oxygen deprivation and attributed the resulting desire to sleep to this.
  • Fatigue and/or relaxation. Sex most often occurs late in the day, when men are tired. It also typically occurs in the bedroom, the natural place for sleep. In addition, sex often is relaxing, not least due to the release of sexual tension.
  • Hormonal. A variety of brain chemicals and hormones are released during sex; some of which are linked to relaxation and sleep.

The second explanation, while plausible, does not stand up to examination. During sex there is typically a rapid increase in breathing, far greater than required by the physical exertion involved. This elevates blood oxygen and easily compensates for the temporary holding of breath typical at the point of climax. There is little or no oxygen deprivation (this has also been measured in laboratory measurements of volunteers having sex). Furthermore, their are many other activities where men hold their breath (e.g. swimming underwater, pearl divers) or have reduced oxygen levels (e.g. during athletic activities) without feeling an urgent desire for sleep. Although extreme oxygen deprivation (for example, from carbon monoxide poisoning) can induce extreme fatigue and desire to sleep, this is clearly not associated with normal sexual activity.The third point has more validity. The period between sex and sleep is longer if sexual intercourse is in a place other than the bedroom, if it is earlier in the day, or if it occurs when people are rested rather than tired. It is also true that sleep comes easier and quicker when one is relaxed, so in so far as sex relieves tension, it also inclines one to fall asleep quicker. However, this can only be a partial explanation. Men will often lie awake in bed for long periods before falling asleep, even if they are relatively relaxed. Yet these same men may fall asleep almost immediately after sex. The act of sex, while physical in nature, is not so physically strenuous as to produce exhaustion requiring immediate sleep. Nor is the amount of relation involved sufficient in itself to induce almost immediate sleep. Consequently, while fatigue and relaxation are factors that play a part, they are only a partial explanation.

The first explanation also provides a partial explanation. Some men are interested primarily in their own desires and once satisfied do not care about those of their sexual partner. However, especially in a long-term relationship, most men want to satisfy their wife/girlfriend and be considered a good sexual partner (even if, as is sometimes the case, it is only so that they can continue to have ready access to sex). It would perhaps be more accurate to say that men have trouble understanding the need for intimacy. For many men, sex is primarily a physical act and once climax is over, sex is completed. They do not see post-sex cuddling and talking as a necessary or even relevant part of sex. Even when this is explained to them by their partners, the concept is often so foreign to their nature that it is difficult for them to understand or respond to it. However, such considerations are only a partial explanation.

The influence of hormones is rather more complex. During sex various brain chemicals and hormones are released, especially at the point of climax. These include norepinephrine, serotonin, oxytocin, vasopressin, and the hormone prolactin. The impact of these various chemicals is only partly understood. However, the hormone prolactin in particular is associated with sleep. Animals injected with the hormone become tired immediately and tend to quickly fall asleep, unless there is a need to stay awake (for example, hunger or fear). The strong link between the release of this hormone and sleep, combined with the release of this hormone during climax, are strong explanations for why men tend to quickly go to sleep after sex. It should also be noted that both the amount of hormone released, and the tendency to go to sleep, are related to the type and strength of orgasm. Research had found that climax from sexual intercourse releases about four times as much of this hormone as climax from masturbation, and that the tendency for men to fall asleep after sexual intercourse climax is much greater than after masturbation climax. A possible hypothesis for further testing is that a more intense climax (better sex), by releasing a greater amount of the hormone prolactin, brings on male sleep quicker. From a woman’s perspective, this is perhaps the opposite from what one would want.

In summary, there are various explanations for why men tend to fall asleep shortly after sex. The release of hormones associated with sex (in particular, climax) is a strong explanatory factor. The conditions in which sexual intercourse occurs (end of the day, when fatigued, in bed where one sleeps) along with the release of tension are often contributing factors. In themselves, these factors do not force sleep, but they produce a strong tendency for sleep. Although their female partners may have a strong need to engage in post-sex intimacy, if the male partner is indifferent to or insufficiently aware of this need, the tendency to sleep is not resisted and the man may well go to sleep almost immediately after sex.

Fortunately, there are a number of simple steps which can be taken to address this problem. The purpose of this article was to first understand the problem. The next article (reference to be added) will explain how to resolve it.

Dr. Stewart is a researcher by choice, as his business FPSI French Property [http://www.france-property-and-information.com] leaves him enough time to engage his passion for learning and sharing.

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Sex Toy Sales and What I Have Learned From Selling Them

I haven’t been selling sex toys all that long. I have had a lot of fun doing it and have been making some good money from it. I have also learned a lot from those that come to my sex toy parties. Here are a few things I have learned:

There are still quite a few people that have hang ups about sex.

For the most part, reactions have been favorable when I tell people about what I do. However, I was quite surprised recently. One of my colleagues from some other work that I do made a pronouncement to other peers. She said that all those sex toys I sell and masturbating I do makes me mean and evil. She further admonished by saying that people only need to have sex the proper way i.e. within marriage and the man on top. That makes me sad to think that a professional helping person is so narrow minded. The human body is brilliantly designed and wired for pleasure. The original intent was to ensure procreation of our wonderful species. Alas, evolution being what it is we have gone on to pursue sex for its own sake. The many health benefits of orgasm whether by self-pleasuring or with a partner are well researched. Denying that part of yourself doesn’t allow you to grow as a human being.

People have a lot of questions about sex.

In this day of information instantly available, it has shown me that the human touch is still so important. Getting straight answers and reassurance is what people want. My background as a professional counselor helps people feel comfortable in confiding in me. I take that privilege seriously and am proud that I can help someone out.

Women love to get together and talk about sex.

And you thought is was just the guys! I’ve heard a lot of stories about women and their sex toys. One told about how her husband got jealous and broke her favorite toy. Many others have shared the names they have given their toys. Others are eager to share how to use them to those that are toy “virgins”. I laugh and share along with all of them.

I have learned a lot and know I still have a lot left to learn.

Although I have a certain expertise, I still learn a thing or two from my clients. Learning is a life long process. When it comes to sex, I’d like to think that this educator is also an apt pupil.

Sometimes you can tell too much.

Although the sex toy party goers have fun learning and sharing together, every now and then there is someone who tells a little more than they need to share. The silence is deafening when that happens and can stop the momentum of the party. Sex is still a private matter and a modicum of discretion is necessary.

I love what I’m doing and plan on continuing to do it. Who would have ever thought that there was so much more to sex toys?

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Best Sex You’ve Ever Had

Judging from my long time experience as a tantric sex coach, it seems to me that most people at some point in their lives have a sexual experience that could be called transcendental or mystical, or simply “out of this world” wonderful. This special sexual experience could have taken place with a partner or on their own. It doesn’t matter how it came about, what matters is that many, many people naturally have this kind of amazing sexual encounter, often quite inadvertently. That’s because our bodies, psyches and spirits are wired to have this kind of experience. It’s in our original blue print to be ecstatic. When we are able to totally relax, let go, trust and open up, magical, divine love-making happens all by itself.

So, if it’s so natural, why don’t more people enjoy mind-blowing sex as a regular, everyday thing? That’s because our upbringing has trained us out of our intuitive knowing. Still, having once, or sporadically, had this experience, it is only understandable that people spend their lives trying to recapture that special moment, often failing to do so. Some manage it occasionally, but few have it consistently. Others go down the wrong track all together into all kinds of sexual distractions, even sex addiction. But what people really seek deep down is sex that helps them merge with the divine, sex that tunes them into the love that is the very fabric of who we are, sex that helps them melt and become one with God, Goddess, The Source, “That which is eternal”.

The reason “Tantra” has become so popular lately is because tantric sex describes quite well this sacred sex that people are missing. And so people try out whatever suggestions they find under the term Tantra. But what a lot of people don’t understand is that no amount of techniques or special breathing rhythms or chants or body positions, or incense or gadgets will get you to this longed for state of blissful pleasure and merging.

What you need to get there is much simpler then that. To have fantastic life-altering sex you need emotional and physical openness, that’s it.

It’s simple but that doesn’t mean it’s necessarily easy.

That’s why, paradoxically, these mystical sexual experiences are often experienced by couples who are fairly new to each other. Check your own experience and see if I’m right.

This is so because couples who are new to each other are typically a lot less weighed down with cautiousness. There is an innocence, a freshness, a hopefulness and a lack of negative expectation. There is an absence of the protection that usually builds between a couple as their intimate relating touches old emotional wounds and as lack of sexual knowledge and communication skills creates repeated disappointments.

Does that mean that you should go from honeymoon to honeymoon, from partner to partner in search of this magical sex. Oh no! The truly best sex, the lasting kind, the really amazing deeply transformational sex is always found in committed relationships where the partners keep growing in closeness together.

So what can a couple do to consistently have the best sex they’ve ever had? And not just on their honeymoon or once in a great while?
They can commit to emotional, physical and energetic opening. But how?

In my home audio workshop and e-book “Sex for the Soul” I go into great detail as to what a couple can do, but here I’ll just give you a short list of tips:
1. Have eye contact when you make love much of the time. See and allow yourself to be seen, be emotionally naked.

2. Talk about your sex life. Be willing to increase your communication about specific sexual physical details by 100%; what works for you, what doesn’t, and what you wish your partner and you would try. Keep blame out of it. Rather then focusing on what doesn’t work let each other know what would work. Make yourself vulnerable and be honest.

3. Relax your body when you make love. Slow things down enough so that you can feel your genitals very sensitively. Start slow, and slow down in between more heated moments. Your body will teach you how to have sacred sex if you slow down enough to listen to it.

4. Be willing to experiment with new ways of playing in the bedroom, physically and emotionally.

5. Don’t settle for sexual gratification, which means, don’t just go for orgasm at all cost, neither his nor hers. Seek to make love, to create a space of lovingness, each time you connect sexually.

6. Make love often; bring your bodies together regularly. Let your lovemaking become a meditation of surrender, connection, vulnerability and deep relaxation. See it as a spiritual practice. Let your relationship be a journey of learning and growing in love together.

And here an excerpt from my upcoming audio program “Sex for the Soul”

…….One of the messages of this program is: Don’t just have sex, make love! Most people, when they hear the words “making love” immediately assume it means having a sexual exchange, am I right? Have you ever really considered why that is? It is because, since time immemorial, sex is one of the best ways that humans have to create more love: in their relationship, in their lives, and on the planet. Unfortunately, the way things are nowadays, having sex doesn’t mean making love. Consciously engaging in the act of creating more love through the sexual act is not what most people think about when they are having sex. The way sex is promoted these days in popular culture presents sex as a means for physical pleasure, excitement, fun, or even social status. Although there is no problem with any of these, the media is inadvertently promoting loveless sex. “Tips for better sex”, “How to have more sizzling orgasms”, “Make sex last longer”, “5 new techniques to Dazzle Your Partner in Bed”– these are the headlines we see every day on magazine covers. The word “love” does not appear in any of these headlines and that’s why it’s easy to forget to look for love.

Another message of this program is equally important: Don’t just live together, make love! So many long- term couples have given up and resigned themselves to a life of companionship, and maybe occasional sex, but there are many easy and some not so easy things a couple can do to bring the spark back to their partnership.

And to come back to the value of tantric techniques, special breathing rhythms, mantras, chants, sexual positions, energy exercises, incense, sacred symbols, etc. Once you have emotional openness all the above can be a lot of fun and add to your experience in lovely ways. Often the biggest value is not the technique itself but the fact that in endeavoring to bring these things into their life, couples start talking about their sex-life and begin to explore. But just remember, you don’t really need any techniques to have the best sex you ever had. You just need to trust yourself and your body ever more deeply.

If you want to start today, try one of my tips for Sacred Sex above.My audio workshop will give you many more explicit and detailed instructions to work with, but for now go to my list of tips and start exploring the vast depths of sexual mystery and magic that is yours by birthright.

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