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How not to blow your first orgy

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So you’re going to a sex party — now what?

“Don’t be the person to break up the orgy,” says Effy Blue, a sex and relationship coach living in New York City, who shares her pro tips for attending your next hedonistic affair.

“You should wear to a sex party whatever you feel sexy and comfortable in,” Blue tells The Post.

Blue recommends party attendees dress in layers: arrival attire, something sexy underneath and a cover-up.

“What I like having also is some sort of cover-up, like a shawl or sexy robe that I wear later on at night when I don’t want to walk around naked,” she said.

‘Sex is risky business, there is no such thing as safe sex, there is safer sex.’
Sex party preparation goes far beyond the outfit, however.

Mental preparedness is essential to maintaining a healthy party environment. Blue has developed a mnemonic device, B.I.D., to ensure guest safety as well as enjoyment.

“‘B’ is for boundaries, ‘I’ is for intention and ‘D’ is for desire,” she explains.

“Touching without consent will earn you a stern caution and can even get you kicked out of the party,” Blue adds.

Even simply being a voyeur requires a certain amount of respect and awareness.

“If you’re watching a scene, if you’re watching a group of people having sex, or watching, you know, just one person even masturbating, you are participating in that sexual energy,” she says.

In a large play area, spectators don’t necessarily need to ask permission to watch but should avert their gaze from someone if they detect signs of discomfort.

“If you are watching a smaller scene, maybe in a separate room or out-of-the-way corner, it’s good manners to ask as long as you are not disturbing the scene,” she adds.
‘Touching without consent will earn you a stern caution and can even get you kicked out of the party.’
Guests should also do what they can to protect themselves and others from sexually transmitted infections.

“Sex is risky business, there is no such thing as safe sex, there is safer sex,” says Blue, adding that STIs like herpes can be transmitted from genitals to mouth.

“So if you’re going down on somebody, coming up for air and kissing somebody else, it’s not a great idea,” she says.

Blue believes such precautions make sex parties one of the safer spaces.

“Sex parties are great. They are safer than any mainstream nightlife location I’ve ever been to,” she says.

“People think that they are going to come to a sex party and it’s gonna be carnage, you’re going to be groped, you’re going to, have to, like, have sex, none of the above is true,” she adds.

Even if public or social sex doesn’t turn someone on, going to a sex party is a unique experience that Blue thinks everyone should have at least once.

 

http://nypost.com/2017/06/22/dont-be-the-one-to-break-up-an-orgy-and-other-sex-party-tips/