I haven’t been selling sex toys all that long. I have had a lot of fun doing it and have been making some good money from it. I have also learned a lot from those that come to my sex toy parties. Here are a few things I have learned:
There are still quite a few people that have hang ups about sex.
For the most part, reactions have been favorable when I tell people about what I do. However, I was quite surprised recently. One of my colleagues from some other work that I do made a pronouncement to other peers. She said that all those sex toys I sell and masturbating I do makes me mean and evil. She further admonished by saying that people only need to have sex the proper way i.e. within marriage and the man on top. That makes me sad to think that a professional helping person is so narrow minded. The human body is brilliantly designed and wired for pleasure. The original intent was to ensure procreation of our wonderful species. Alas, evolution being what it is we have gone on to pursue sex for its own sake. The many health benefits of orgasm whether by self-pleasuring or with a partner are well researched. Denying that part of yourself doesn’t allow you to grow as a human being.
People have a lot of questions about sex.
In this day of information instantly available, it has shown me that the human touch is still so important. Getting straight answers and reassurance is what people want. My background as a professional counselor helps people feel comfortable in confiding in me. I take that privilege seriously and am proud that I can help someone out.
Women love to get together and talk about sex.
And you thought is was just the guys! I’ve heard a lot of stories about women and their sex toys. One told about how her husband got jealous and broke her favorite toy. Many others have shared the names they have given their toys. Others are eager to share how to use them to those that are toy “virgins”. I laugh and share along with all of them.
I have learned a lot and know I still have a lot left to learn.
Although I have a certain expertise, I still learn a thing or two from my clients. Learning is a life long process. When it comes to sex, I’d like to think that this educator is also an apt pupil.
Sometimes you can tell too much.
Although the sex toy party goers have fun learning and sharing together, every now and then there is someone who tells a little more than they need to share. The silence is deafening when that happens and can stop the momentum of the party. Sex is still a private matter and a modicum of discretion is necessary.
I love what I’m doing and plan on continuing to do it. Who would have ever thought that there was so much more to sex toys?